Top 10 Dating Tips for the Modern Woman
by Kai Nicole
Let’s face it, dating in this digital era is getting a bit crazy. We are in a cultural shift where women have a lot more money and freedom than they used to have, all while traditionalism is still desired by many. So, how are modern women to navigate the madness? Here are 10 tips to help the single women out there:
- Be Whole
Do not date with the expectation that there is someone else outside of you who will complete you. You are a complete person, and you should date like one. If you don’t feel fully complete then dating should not be your priority. You should take the time to focus on yourself becoming whole and happy.
Happy women always have a better dating life.
- Be Open
One of the biggest reasons women are disappointed with their dating experiences is because they have so many expectations that cannot be met. In order to have better dating experiences, you have to be open. That means no expectations! Let the dates flow and enjoy the moment!
- Stop “Husband Shopping”
“If you are one of these women who is searching for a husband, you are not dating, you are shopping. You are looking for a guy who fits some requirements you have created in your mind – a fantasy. Stop doing that. If you want to date, you need to understand the reality. Dating is taking time to get to know someone. That’s it. You give your time and in turn a man gives his time to you so that you both get to know each other.” – Date Like A Woman
- Only accept dates from men who are genuinely interested in you
How can you tell that a man is genuinely interested? He will risk rejection. Ladies, if a man risks nothing, especially public rejection, he really isn’t that interested in you, period. You are just some woman to pass the time with. When a man is REALLY interested in you, he is going to make sure you know it even at the risk of being embarrassed. Because in his mind you are worth it. The men who risk something to ask you out, those are the men you should date. They are genuinely interested.
- Date In Your Circle
When it comes to dating, there are many types of circles/leagues. However, your dating experiences are best when you date within your leagues/circles. I talk about dating circles more in-depth in my book. If you want to know what circles you are in, you should take a look at your own life. Chances are you spend time with those who are most similar to you. The men who are most similar to the folks you hang around are the men who are in your circles.
Why are dating experiences with men in your circle better? Because you have more in common and will have more to share and talk about.
- Avoid online dating and dating men who only send you DMs
As I like to say, “shoot your shot in public so I know it’s real.” Men who only date online or shoot their shot in DMs lack either true interest in the woman or their ability to talk to women is lacking in some way. When a man is not genuinely interested in a woman, the dating experience is always subpar.
While online dating and DMs have made it easier for men to access women, especially men who are scared to speak to women in person, the increased access to women means there is a decreased chance of genuine interest. Of course, many people love to fight me on this point, stating that they either met their spouses online or know someone who has met a spouse online. Whenever this happens, I simply point out that the success rate for online dating is 5%. That means 95% (that’s ninety-five percent) of the time online dating does not work. On top of that, the online dating business is worth $2 billion dollars. Online dating sites make more money if they keep you single. So, if you are okay with that, then please, by all means, keep dating online.
- Be more than a pretty package
Focus less on how you look and more on who you are as a person when you date. “You must be more than just a pretty face. If you aren’t interesting, men are not going to be interested in you. You must be more than just a ‘wrapping.’ You have to give your date more than just an appearance. You have to give your date something to get to know.”’ – Date Like A Woman
- Date more than one man at a time
If you are not in a relationship, you’re single. Act like it. DATE!
- Learn to let go
If a date doesn’t go the way you want it to, don’t sweat it. Letting go and moving on when things aren’t “right” is one of the key components to a great dating life.
Remember, this is dating, not a relationship! If one guy isn’t for you, date a different one!
- Buy Date Like A Woman!
Get Date Like A Woman, the BEST dating guide for women, if you really want a better dating life!
Want to read more dating blogs? Check out DateLikeAWoman.com’s Blog. Be sure to also check out Kai’s personal blog at FlyMommy.net! And, don’t forget to buy the best dating book for women, Date Like A Woman!
Too right! Thank you, Kai, for giving us your impression of how to navigate dating in this modern age.
Well, readers, shall we take a look at the book on which her philosophy is based? Sounds like a plan! 😀
Great cover! 🙂
Here’s the blurb for Date Like a Woman:
Date Like A Woman (DLAW) is for the 21st century woman who is ready for a new narrative about dating, romance, sex and life! DLAW helps women move from fear to freedom. It offers practical dating advice, teaching women to navigate through the often challenging and daunting dating world, while countering the sexist, stereotypical and, frankly, stupid “instructions” spewed at women by self-professed male “dating experts.”
DLAW puts the FUN back into dating while also providing no-nonsense guidance that empowers and encourages women who have grown weary, been disappointed, and are still holding on to outmoded and unrealistic expectations about their dating choices. DLAW reminds women of their worth, helping them understand that they do not need to fit some antiquated model of being “accepted” or “chosen” by men.
For women who are so ready to sever the cord – quickly, forcefully and permanently – that has kept them bound by dangerous dogma and silly, sexist “thought leaders,” DLAW offers fresh, funny advice for discovering themselves, deciding what they really want, and enjoying dating!
Universal Amazon link: https://bookgoodies.com/a/0692864350
Add it to Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/36164605-date-like-a-woman
♥♥♥ Ooh…love it! This looks like such a helpful read!
Thanks for stopping by with your fascinating guest post, Kai! Awesome to have you here! ♥
Published author, blogger and attorney Kai Nicole has emerged as an exciting and unique voice on dating and relationships. A graduate of Harvard University and Howard University School of Law, Kai’s professional experiences encompass diverse fields including legal, tech, and entertainment. She is a mother, world traveler, foodie, and lifestyle enthusiast.
Amazon Author Page: https://amzn.to/2GvUlOr
Thanks again, Kai! We hope to see you back on ILRB sometime.
Happy reading, everyone!🙂
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